Thought Corner #1: Gone But Never Forgotten

Before officially starting off, I would like to thank Matthew Whiteside for writing this beautiful post entitled Terminal Diagnosis . His post triggered alot of emotions in me so I decided to do my own take on said topic. Below is a link to his post.

Benjamin Franklin once said,

In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except taxes and death.

We all remember Benjamin Franklin as the guy who popularized the theory regarding electricity. But aside from electricity, he said this famous line.

Taxes and death.

Imagine life without him. Life would totally have been so different. Since firstly, it would be really dark and secondly, there one be one less witty person out there.

Who would have thought to equate constancy with death and taxes right?

So let’s get right to it. . .To properly introduce this segment of my new thought corner, I think it is but best to define said topics.


According to Merriam-Webster

DEATH:  a permanent cessation of all vital.

GONE:   no longer living

As a Medical Practitioner

Being part of the medical field, the concept of death is neither foreign or unheard of to me. In fact, the one thing that is equally common in the hospital aside from births are deaths.

I have seen numerous people succumbed to death in front of my very eyes. Although the causes of death would vary, the end point is still the same.

And if you would ask me, how do i deal with such tragedy? Does it get better?

My answer to that is….it’s still a new experience everytime and it never gets easy. 

As a Writter

The thought of being gone forever leaves an empty feeling deep down inside me. It is as if my whole world would come crashing down along with me.

The thought of never writing again scares me.

The thought of never getting my thoughts out again frightens me to the core.

And if you would ask me, would I ever give up writting?

My answer to that is… taking writing away from me, is like stripping my heart away from my body. It is left useless and non functional. 


According to Merriam- Webster

PAIN: localized physicial suffering associated with bodily disorder

FORGOTTEN: to loose remembrance

As a Medical Practitioner

Coming into the emergency room, patients would often come in with complaints mostly associated with pain.

Whether it is for  bad stomache or a nagging headache that never goes a way, irregardless of the reason, all patients alike want relief of the pain they are suffering.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is inevitable. But sometimes we forget that aside from the hurt we feel, pain often brings out something wonderful.

People would often say labor pains are the best way to awaken a mother’s love. . . and surely I wouldn’t dare disagree with those people.

And so if you would ask me…. what scares you the most?

My answer to that would be… suffering in so much pain, a pain that I could never bear. 

As a writer

Being a writer in itself is unique. We don’t have fixed hours compared to usual jobs. We don’t typically have to go to offices and wear suits and tie.

But what makes us even more unique is our vulnerability. We are all artist alike. We strive to get our work out there and along with that process we loose ourselves as well.

And so if you ask me… are you scared of loosing yourself?

My answer to that would be….it is not loosing a piece of me that scares me the most but the mere thought of being forgotten puts me on a greater edge.

3. Impact and Remembrance

According to Merriam- Webster

IMPACT: have a strong effect on someone

REMEMBRANCE: action of remembering

As a Medical Professional

In the many years I have spent training in my profession, I could basically sum up my endless nights of studying by three words.

Service, Sacrifice, Impact.

Service to humanity. Endless sacrifice for the attainment of knowledge. And easing the burdens of our patients by making an impact through healing.

And so if you would ask me… when does your job end?

My answer would be… it is never ending. It doesnt end the moment they walk out of the hospital. It continues on beyond that. It continues the moment their lives become better and as they are eased out of their pain. And that is when you make an impact. 

As a Writer

Before starting out this blog, I had alot of aspirations.

  1. Enroll in a journalism course.
  2. Launch one legit book under a publishing house.
  3. Become a bestselling author.

Call it unrealistic. Call it hopeless dreaming.

But instead of only sticking my head up in the clouds, I chose to pursue this dream even more.

I have later learned that choosing something else doesnt mean giving up. It simply means choosing another option that is more attainable.

In the short span of my blogging journey, I went through a couple ups and downs. I have doubted myself. I’ve gotten myself stuck in a rut. And even went AWOL for a couple of weeks.

And so if you would ask me… was I scared of being forgotten?

My answer to that would be… YES! YES!  YES! Numerous thoughts went scrambling through my head. Could I still make a comeback? Will they even remember me?

Life is very funny indeed. Well funny wouldn’t probably be the best way to descibe it actually. Alot of other adjectives could be more appropriate.

LIFE is… scary, exciting and unpredictable. (Sorry that’s about all the adjectives I could come up as of the moment. )

Life begins with our birth and ends with our DEATH. Although both are polar opposites of one another, they are both inevitable.

It is bound to happen. It is only but natural.

In my own personal opinion, it is not death that scares me but the PAIN that comes along with it. The unbearable pain that I might not be able to handle but still have to face.

The idea of being GONE forever doesn’t scare me too much. However, the thought of being FORGOTTEN, now that’s a whole new story.

Being physically gone is unavoidable. We can’t do anything about that. BUT what is possible is making a dent in this world is.

We can do this by making an IMPACT in people’s life, maybe just maybe, we can be REMEMBERED in their hearts.


LIFE: the existence of an indivdual human being


LIVING: a full life

Let us not settle just for life but let us pursue living it instead.

So what are your thoughts? I really want to hear your answers to any of the bolder questions up above . Or if you want you can answer all of them 😊

1.How do you deal with tragedy? Does it get better?

2.Would you ever give up writting?

3.What scares you the most?

4.Are you scared of loosing yourself?

5.When does your job end?

6.Are you scared of being forgotten?


A special shout out to my dear friend Huguette for always remembering.  🙂

Photo credits:

❤️ Eva

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6 thoughts on “Thought Corner #1: Gone But Never Forgotten

  1. I’m so happy I #Triggered you in a positive way I love your perspective from a medical professional.

    I deal with tragedy through a process of 12 steps outlined for me in Aa.

    I would only give up writing if it were no longer a valuable tool which it will never not be that.

    I spend time now in the practice of losing myself in whatever I am doing. In that way i am found.

    I am afraid of being g disconnected from my higher power and drinking again.

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    1. Thank you Matthew for giving me such great inspiration to work on and for sharing me some great insights.

      For opening up and sharing your deepest thoughts I am also grateful.

      “I spend time now in the practice of losing myself in whatever I am doing. In that way i am found. “—- such a beautiful line which is quite profound in a lot of levels. 😊

      I hope you never loose track of your goals.
      Have a great day 😊

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  2. Firstly thank you so much for the great shoutout! 😊😊 so kind of you and so touching to say that! You’re always remembered ❤️
    This was a great post by Matt indeed ! I agree so thank you Matt 😊
    Now to be back to your post 😊
    Loved the approach you made from both medical practitioner and the writer! Very well put and analyzed 👍👍

    “Death is still a new experience everytime and it never gets easy. “
    It’s good to not me so familiar with the idea of death that we become feelingless or numb

    Loved how you described taking writing away from you,«  like stripping my heart away from my body. It is left useless and non functional
    Hope you’ll never have to skip writing!

    Suffering unbearable pain is a huge and justified fear! Hope no one has to encounter it!

    You will never be forgotten as long as you’re making an IMPACT in people’s life, and yes you will always be REMEMBERED in their hearts.
    Such a great message of sacrifice and serving humanity you have 👍👍
    Dream big! no dreams are stupid or hopeless at all!
    Answering your questions:
    1.How do you deal with tragedy? Does it get better? It always gets better you just need to give it time but I don’t pretend to face such big tragedies until now so I don’t know how I’ll deal with it
    2.Would you ever give up writting? The day I stop feeling
    3.What scares you the most? Death of loved ones or their suffering
    4.Are you scared of loosing yourself? Probably I did I don’t know
    5.When does your job end? When I die
    6.Are you scared of being forgotten? Nope I don’t think about it…if you just fed a cat one day you’ll not be forgotten so how come doing all what you’re doing …
    Great come back post Eva! It was worth the wait Looking forward for more 😊😊
    Happy Easter and many blessings to you ❤️❤️

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    1. Wow thank you so much Huguette for the endless love and support. I’m so glad it was worth the wait 😊

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the many questions that I posted. I admire your strength and optimism in dealing with the many things that life has to offer.

      I hope you enjoyed your Easter. Did you paint a lot of eggs?

      Have a great day 😊

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      1. My pleasure dear Eva 😊 I just spoke the truth that’s it 😊
        Yes it was great thank you and we had some fun coloring and taping haha😌😌
        Hope your Easter was great and you enjoyed the holidays 😊


  3. Thankyou for this insightful post.
    1 I currently deal with tragedy by writing, drawing and talking to other people. It gets more manageable.
    2 Would I give up writing? No because if I stop writing my blog posts I become too consumed by emotions and can’t function properly
    3 I’ve experienced both death of loved ones and suffering. I can reveal that there suffering is worse because it’s on going.
    4 Yes I’m scared of losing myself but you just have to deal with by living the best life you can.
    5 Jobs don’t end they just change from work to looking after others etc
    6 No I’m not scared of being forgotten because no one is anything like me.


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