Two Sides of a Coin

To love and to be loved are like to opposite sides of a coin.

One side receives and the other gives.

It only makes sense that 99.9% of us wants to be loved. Right?

And admit it … you desperately want to be part of that larger statistic and fear to be categorised in that slim 0.1 percentile.

Whether it is love from a parent, a friend or a partner, it is but human to yearn this warm emotion.

So this bring us to a series of important questions.

How do we love?

How can we be loved?

As that famous saying goes.. give in order to receive.

With that in mind, we begin to invest all of our time and most importantly, all of our efforts in order to receive all the love that we can.

What wistfully wishing.

But what if that side of the coin never flips?

What if you end up being stuck in the giving end and only end up loving.. without being loved in return?

I guess that’s the sad irony of an unrequited love. You give and give but never receive.

So…Was this a good enough introduction to my one sided love story?

  • We first met out of pure luck.
  • We met the second time around according to chance.
  • We met again for the third time because of a choice.

Part 1. We both met out of pure luck

Out of 500 students starting freshman year, it was but pure luck to have been introduced to one another.

With a hectic class schedule and difficult classes to attend to, it was impossible to socialise with everyone in our first year of medical school.

However, circumstance looked down on us. We blamed the situation we were in and ended up drifting apart.

What I can say .. life happened.

Part 2. We both met the second time according to chance

After achieving another milestone in our careers, we had the greatest fortune and met again the second time around.

At this point in time, we both attained our doctorate degrees and were now starting a fresh.

It was but chance that we were matched at the same institution and never the less placed in the same working group.

Odds were definitely in our favour.

If I recall right, this was probably the start of my long standing one sided love.

Time now became generous. It finally gave us numerous opportunities to get to know each other better … this second time around.

We witness each other’s ups and downs and shared many tears and laughters together.

365 days were simply not long enough. And before I realised it, all the significant occasions had passed.

Orientation -Christmas – New Year- Valentine’s Day – Commencement Exercises.

We parted ways as good friends. It was score that I’ve always known since day 1.

This period marked another era. My heart was now overflowing with love.

Whether it was love for a good friend or something every deeper… it was something I chose to ignore.

My heart knew that it should be stashed away in lock and key from the moment we agreed to be friends

…coz he made it clear that he was in a committed and loving relationship.

I’m proud to say that no lines were crossed. And no feelings were hurt but my own.

Bittersweet as it is , this chapter finally winded to an end. We said our proper goodbyes this time and left with a promise to keep in touch.

Part 3:We both met again for the third time because of a choice.

Everything after that became a blur. Adulting was finally real and we faced our own set responsibilities apart.

Facebook helped but it was never the same.

Until one random day, he called and asked if we could have coffee. Before putting the phone down, he hurriedly said that it was all on him.

Being a mature adult that I am, I brushed anyway all the butterflies in my stomach.

What else could this be but an opportunity to see each other a day before his scheduled flight.

And no … time didn’t slow down like those in the movies.

And no … there were no fireworks nor a flash mob on stand by to catch me off guard.

It was just him and I sitting across each other in a quaint coffee shop.

Time passed by quickly. We laughed and reminisced.

It was just like old times. Nothing changed. It was light, easy and comfortable.

And yes.. he became single for the first time in six years.

I’m not quite certain if my side of the coin finally flipped over.

I’m not sure what his reasons were and why we had to meet me that very day. Only a mere day before his flight.

And most importantly… I still don’t know what his feelings are for me.

But here is what I definitely know.. that I’ll continue to love in the hopes of being loved.

I know this steers away from my recent blog post but I wanted to break the ice once again. I wanted to be spontaneous and live in the moment

Love can be felt and seen in different points of view.

So here is a question I would like to throw.. what if you had to choose one side of the coin. Which side would you prefer? The one that loves or the one that is loved?

Feel free to answer any of the bolded questions up above.

I really can’t wait to hear from you.

What are you thoughts? Please do comment down below.

Let us all share the love this holiday season 😊

❤️Eva

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26 thoughts on “Two Sides of a Coin

    1. Thank you very much for stopping by and checking out my blog. Thank you most especially for your feedback, I really appreciate it.

      I actually never saw it that way. Thank you for that insight. It was new and thought provoking.

      Love yourself like there is no tomorrow. Have a great day 😊

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      1. You are more than welcome! You are right, for actually we never know if there will be a tomorrow for us. Moreover, every morning when waking up we call that day, “today”. Have a great day every single day! 🙂

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      2. I couldn’t have penned that thought any better than you have. Live is invaluable indeed.

        Thank you for another great input.
        Cheers to living like there is no tomorrow 😊

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    1. Allegory was such a big word for me. I looked it up and finally understood what it meant. Thank you for adding another content in my word bank.

      I have realised that most of us tend to be givers. You and I are alike in that aspect as well.

      I do hope you are loved beyond measure.

      Thank you again for dropping by. Your inputs are different and the way you write is filled with grace.

      I wish to see you again. You made me more motivated to make good content. 😊

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  1. I believe that all relationships should be mutual but of course it’s not the case! I’m perfectly a giver but at certain point you just fall apart, we are human beings after all and love and affection and care should be mutual especially romantic love, I mean unrequited love is pure torture so the person should retreat if it’s not mutual especially when they’re sure it’s not, not just analyzing and judging. And in this case, it’s useless to ask which side of the coin you prefer for the simple reason that many love us and we don’t love them back, and we don’t feel anything, we don’t care, we just like to brag about it to make certain people jealous but unless it’s mutual we’ll never know what love really feels and it’s unfair for the giver here, to keep them so we can feel good that we have lovers and fans but we feel nothing towards them…Don’t know if my point is clear. In another meaning for those who said they prefer to be loved, I’m sure many love you and you don’t love them back so how it feels?
    When it come to random people we meet, acquaintances, it’s easy to choose the side of the coin that is “loved”, we tend to be loved and popular so we don’t care to give back.
    Friendship is similar to love, it should be mutual, I’m a giver but I tell you that at certain point your energy is drained, you want this person to appreciate you and give you as well…
    Of course this is how I see things 🙂 thank you for this subject, it’s interesting

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    1. I’m sorry for not having read this comment earlier. Somehow this got buried under my notifications.

      Wow. Just wow. Your comment truly made my day. Just hearing you thoughts and your opinions made me feel loved. This is the essence of blogging. The connection you make with others.

      You have a unique take on this. I didn’t see this “that the different situations we are placed in would give out a different answer.”

      All you points are very clear. I enjoyed reading every line.

      I like this line of yours most especially. “I mean unrequited love is pure torture so the person should retreat if it’s not mutual especially when they’re sure it’s not, not just analyzing and judging.”

      I’m sort of stuck in this predicament where I’m not sure if the feeling is mutual with him. If I could describe him perfectly, he would probably be liked to Katy Perry’s song “hot and cold”. You advise went a really long way with me. I hope I can somehow understand his true intentions.

      Did I sum this up right? We are all human. We all get drained. We all want to be loved. We all want to love.😊

      Again thanks for sharing 😊

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      1. Hello again and don’t worry at all 🙂 Thank you so much for the lovely words and glad my point was crystal clear to you and glad to know it might help you someway! I believe that love cannot be hidden for a long time, so you will know…it’s just people love in many many different ways so we’re confused sometimes…Best of luck to find your happy ending and endless love 🙂

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      2. I hope I’ll know soon. I’m becoming to loose hope. That or I’m just being impatient haha.

        Thank you for the insight and best wishes. Haha I sound like I’m getting married. Anyways … all we ever dream of is a happy ending. I wish that for you as well.

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  2. To love or not to love is the question (lil’s Shakespeare intervention there). For me, giving is everything, I’ve been born a giver; not a taker, but is the one who is loved a taker? There are so many questions and so many different answers there’s too much to say.
    Great post,
    Amber x

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    1. Bless Shakespeare and his mind blogging questions.

      The one being love is the taker. Interesting point. Ive never thought of it this way.

      Its great that I left you still questioning. This was one of my hidden intentions as well. 🙂

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  3. Its a fact that 99.9 percent want to be loved… That 0.1 percent may be belongs to moms..
    I understand that fact that give love and you will be loved, but still internally we strive for to be loved…

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